Financial Management for Couples: When a Spender and a Saver Fall in Love | Affinity Capital

July 6, 2021

Money can be a point of contention for many couples. Between big expenses like taking vacations, buying a house, getting married or having children, relationships can be filled with tricky financial situations. Even trickier is if you and your partner have different views on financial matters—one of you is a spender and one is a saver. Here are some tips on navigating money management as a team. 

Have Regular Check-Ins

The first step to managing your finances within a relationship is to talk about money on a regular basis. For some people, this may be easy. But money is a source of stress and anxiety for many people, so you might have to be a little more mindful about when and how you talk about it. 

If talking about finances doesn’t come naturally to your relationship, try scheduling a time to talk on a regular basis. Once per month before most of your bills are due is a good interval to start with. If it’s a stressful conversation for one or both of you, try to set yourself up for success with your plans around the talk. Plan to have a fun date night immediately after your conversation as a reward. Or simply make sure you’re in a comfortable place when you talk to each other—be sure the room around you is clean and cozy, so you don’t add to your stress. 

Agree on a Budget for Shared Expenses 

If you’re at a point in your relationship where you’re ready to open a shared bank account, it’s important to agree on a budget for shared expenses. Especially if one of you tends to spend more money than the other, you should establish guidelines for you both to follow when using the shared bank account. You both have access to the account, so without guidelines, one partner may use the money sparingly while the other may spend the money liberally. 

Think about the necessary living expenses you’ll use the shared account for like: 

  • Rent or mortgage payments 
  • Utilities 
  • Car payments, maintenance, and gas 
  • Internet and cable 
  • Groceries 
  • Phone bill 
  • Pet-related expenses 
  • House maintenance and supplies 
  • Toiletries 
  • Insurance 
  • Subscription services 

Once you have a list of agreed-upon expenses, you can then develop a process for covering things that fall outside of those categories. For big purchases, it might mean having a discussion before deciding to buy something with money in the shared account. For smaller purchases, it might just be your partner giving you a heads up when they’re about to buy something. Regardless of how you choose to spend the money, guidelines and open communication are key to avoiding disagreements and tricky situations around your finances. 

Keep Separate Accounts for Personal Expenses  

If you do choose to open a shared bank account, it may be a good idea to keep separate accounts for your personal and incidental expenses. Especially if one of you tends to spend more money than the other, having control over separate accounts gives each of you the freedom to spend or save how much you’d like without worrying about what your partner thinks. 

Having separate accounts can be beneficial for buying personal items, gifts for your partner or other things that you know your partner won’t use. For instance, you might want to save a little bit of money to spend on a gaming system, but your partner prefers to save money and invest it instead. With personal accounts, you can both manage a portion of your money however you’d like. 

Use a Financial Professional as a Neutral Party 

It’s a good idea to have a professional opinion when it comes to managing your money. For couples with different financial habits, it’s even more important to have a financial professional there as a neutral party. This person can help both of you manage your shared finances, figure out how to save and invest and plan for big life expenses together. 

If you need help talking with your partner about money, you’re planning to open a joint bank account or you’re starting to think about a large expense, we can help with professional planning. Affinity Capital, through our Young Investor Program, works with many professionals making first time important decisions about finances. Contact us for a complimentary initial analysis. 
 

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What a Noisy World Means for Your Portfolio

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